Title: Getting out of a sexual rut
Relationships take a lot of work. We have to be mindful of our partner, respect them and their time, remember what they like in their coffee, deal with jealousy issues, show them our appreciation, not lean on them to fill our needs, and so on. It’s a constant juggle, but with the right person is worth all of the effort. However there’s one thing that can be tough. It can be a tough that can make or break you if you get in over your head. That tough being bad sex or getting stuck in a sexual rut.
All relationships go through this phase. It’s only natural. You get to know a person after a certain amount of time and you simply for what works. They do the same and then BAM, you’re in a rut. If the sex is bad from the start, well then that’s an even bigger issue. This may not fly for you if you consider sex to be a big deal in the relationship. If not, then you might be ok. Either way, once you’ve acknowledged a problem, your best bet is to address it head on and try to fix it.
First talk to your partner and express your concern. Be very careful with the way you address this topic, as your partner could be sensitive. Come at it from an angle that includes the both of you and doesn’t place blame on you or your partner. Talk about how you want to grow as a couple and you feel like you’re stuck at the moment because of this. Once you’ve got them listening, pose some ideas of how to make things exciting or in some cases, better.
Continue to reassure them along the way and that you want to do this for the both of you.
But now you need some ideas, don’t you? Don’t worry, I gotchu.
Do something as easy as changing the time of day you get busy. Do you always go for nightime nookie? Switch it up to the morning or a mid afternoon romp. You’ll see them in literally a different light of day.
Try incorporating sex toys. If you’re into penetrative sex, look into getting a strap on or a g spot vibrator. If you’re into oral, get tongue vibrators or you can even try nipple clamps if you’re into nipple play. Need some more ideas? Check out Adam and Eve sex toys.
Get frisky outside of the bedroom. Maybe you just shack up in different rooms in your house or maybe you hit the back seat of your car, a park or even a movie theatre. Explore your wild side and let go of your inhibitions.
Watch porn together. This is a great idea if you feel like you need a little inspiration to get you going. Select a film that covers a few new positions or ideas for the two of you and then reenact a few of them. It might be as fun as it is pleasurable.
Wine and dine each other. Sometimes all we need is a little romance and if that’s fallen off the table, it’s time to put it back in play. Get dressed up, open doors, and wine and dine your lady. End your night in an extra special outfit just for her.
Read literotica to each other. This can be a really great way to get you in the mood and to facilitate dirty talk. And you can do the same as you did with the porn and use it as inspiration.
Propose some of these ideas to your partner and see if she has any to offer in return. The moment you start talking is the moment your sex life will improve.